Charles Neal

Contact Details

Hastings, TN355Jp
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Fees & Charges

2016 Fees for individuals and work on relationhips : £95 per session (60 mins approx)
Supervision, coaching and consultation fees: c£95 per hour.
Consultancy and training by negotiation
All fees are negotiable. Please discuss with me.


Car parking available, Ground Floor Room But No Wheelchair Access, Skype Video Counselling, Telephone Counselling.

My clients

Gender & Sexual Minorities Experienced:
Cross Dresser/Transvestite
Kink/BDSM (all gender/sexualities)
Other Gender Variant
Age ranges:
Seniors (60+)
Young Adults (16-24)
Relationship Styles:
Friend and Family members

About me

I had a chequered, chaotic childhood and adolescence which has been formative. I also learned from early involvement in political, charitable and pressure groups as well as campaigning and organising. This has remained a feature of my adult life. 

After inadequate schooling I spent some years managing a rare bookshop in London before training to teach. 

I was heterosexually married for twelve years and have two sons, now 42 and 38. For 33 years I have shared life with my male partner and we share the care of his 12 year old son with two women friends, his mothers.

I am a keen writer, editor and communicator. I have exhibited and sold my photographs, had poetry published and designed gardens. I remain a social activist involved in many causes internationally and have founded and chaired numerous organisations. I enjoy seeing life from different perspectives. 

My working background

I have been privileged to spend all my working life supporting people at points of growth and change in their lives. Twenty years was in innovative education and training. I was a teacher, governor, Head of Department in a comprehensive and an inner city college, a lecturer and co-ordinator of the biggest Open College Network in Britain. My last thirteen years in this rewarding work was in Access education for adults, including design of the now much-used Access ‘kitemark'.

I've worked with individuals with physical and learning difficulties, women offenders, minority communities, schoolchildren, undergraduate and postgraduate students and people in the University of the Third Age as well as with other professionals in training and practice.

I've worked in charitable, public, private and voluntary sectors with individuals and groups, small and large. I have extensive experience as a trainer, group leader, conference organiser and presenter, writer, broadcaster and editor.

I strongly believe individuals, groups and whole communities can, and do, grow and change for the better. Fascination with how and what we learn – and how we can unlearn what does not serve us well – informs my creative approaches to problems and painful experiences. I love what I do for a living.

My present work

In 1990 I became an independent therapist and trainer, supervisor and consultant, now working mainly in East Sussex. I work with the full range of clients in counselling and therapy on most issues, individually and with those in relationships. I regularly lead or co-lead workshops on specific topics, specialising in variant sexualities, though my clients come from all walks of life, all ages and widely differing experience, with all kinds of issues they wish to tackle.

I have been involved Pink Therapy since its inception and am an Honorary Clinical Associate. With Dominic Davies, Founding Director, I co-edited the bestselling trilogy of training handbooks, also called ‘Pink Therapy’ (McGraw Hill 1996 and 2000). My latest book is 'The Marrying Kind? Lives of Gay & Bi Men Who Marry Women.' 

Another substantial part of what I do is professional training and support for other therapists and counsellors and professionals with ongoing responsibility for people as part of their work in workshops, seminars and supervision or through articles, books and conferences. 

All my work is confidential, supervised regularly and follows clear Codes of Ethics and Conduct, which I am happy to explain. I am a member of professional bodies and fully insured for professional liability. 

Sexual & Gender Identity:
Gay - Male

Experience and approach

Specific experience and training:

20 years experience as an analysand at St George's Hospital, The Cassel Hospital, The Tavistock Clinic and elsewhere.

30 years additional experience as client and trainee in Humanistic, Formative and Expressive Arts therapy.

Working as co-ordinator for staff and student support in Access programmes for 12 years at City & East London College.

Running staff development workshops for the Open College networks on all aspects of learning and unlearning, 18 years.

Founding and, for five years, Chairing, the Association for Lesbian Gay & Bisexual Psychologies UK

Co-founding, and for five years, representing the UK at, the European Association for Lesbian & Gay Psychologies.

Spectrum Training one year and post graduate programmes in Humanistic psychotherapy. Two years initially and ongoing CPD for the past 24 years.

Spectrum Training, London 3 part 120 hours, Sexuality programme: Basic, Intermediate and Advanced.
Additional Spectrum trainings in: Anger Management, Gestalt training, PVRL, Class issues, Group work, Clinical Interventions, Formative psychology and practice, working with dreams, visualisations,body-maps and many more.

Ten years involvement at all levels with development, training and related work at Pink Therapy. 

Ten years in Men's groups at Spectrum and Men's Conferences for three years, including leading whole days myself.

Fourteen years to date in Working Formatively with Dreams training (4 days per year) with Terry Cooper.

Spectrum Working with Sexual Abuse training. 

PAIIRS Foundation: Practical Application of Intimate Interpersonal Relationship Skills training (1 year)

Therapies Practiced:
Counselling, Life coaching , Psychotherapy, Supervision/Consultation.
Specialisms and interests:
Theoretical approach:
Couple Therapy, Existential, Gestalt, Humanistic, Integrative, Other.
Ethical Framework:
Constituent of UKCP.


Spectrum Graduate in Psychotherapy
Spectrum Training, London (Jan 1996)
Spectrum (UKCP) Accredited Psychotherapist
Spectrum (UKCP) Training, London (Nov 1998)
(UKCP )Annual Membership & Accreditation 1998 - present Cert. for 2011
Uited Kingdom Council for Psychotherapy (Jan 1980)
Pink Therapy Advanced Accredited Sexual Minorities Therapist
Pink Therapy (Jan 2011)

Issues and problems I can help with:

Addictions/Compulsive behaviours, Ageing Issues , Agoraphobia, Anger Management, Anxiety/ Panic Attack, Bereavement/Grief, Bipolar Disorder, Childhood Sexual Abuse (Survivors), Chronic Physical Ilness, Civil Partnership Preparation/ Dissolution, Co-Dependency, Coming Out Issues, Compulsive Behaviours (Sex, Gambling, Spending, etc), Cross Dressing/ Transvestism, Cultural/Ethnic Issues, Dating And Relationship Skills, Depression, Developmental Disabilities, Divorce, Domestic Violence, Drug/ Alcohol Misuse, Emotional Growth & Development, Erectile Difficulties, Executive Coaching, Gender Identity Concerns, HIV/ AIDS, Homophobic Bullying, Insomnia/ Sleep Disorders/ Apnea, Intimacy Issues, Kink/BDSM Identity Concerns, Learning/ Physical Disability issues, Life Coaching, M.E./ Glandular Fever/ Tiredness, Multiple Sclerosis, Organisational/Life Management, Pain Management, Parenting Issues, Post Traumatic Stress, Psychosomatic Illness, Relationship Issues, Self Esteem/Confidence, Sexual Arousal/ Desire Difficulties, Sexual Problems/Dysfunction/Desire Discrepancies, Shame/Guilt, Single Parenting Issues, Smoking, Stress Management, Suicidal Behaviour/Ideation, Trauma, Workplace Issues.

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