How to cope with doubts about your sexual identity (PDF)

MIND (National Association for Mental Health) Leaflet.

Together: A Guide to Love, Life and Lube
Patrick Gayle. Gay Times Books, London 2001

Key Elements: Easy language and an easy read complete with the very good draws that appear throughout the text. It covers just about everything related to the gay lifestyle. With the exception of the HIV medication (which has thankfully progressed since the publication of this book in 2001) information it is timeless all you need to know about being gay and gay relationships.

The chapters are:
1. Coming Out (the process)
2. Mates (how to make and keep friends, relationships)
3. Getting Older (aging as a gay man)
Finding A Place to live (renting, homelessness, everything related to
4. Employment (everything from starting work to discrimination to trade union
5. Debt and Credit Problems (sorting out debts)
6. Body Stuff (hair, hearing, eyes
7. Doing It (fetishes, erogenous zones, pheromones)
8. Diet and Nutrition (what the body needs)
9. Exercise (the heart, blood pressure, injuries)
10. Sleep (Information about sleep)
11. Smoking (damage to health and quitting)
12. Alcohol (the liver, units, limits, and hangovers)
13. Recreational Drugs (safer use, types of drugs)
14. DIY Check-Up and personal hygiene (skin, tattoos, piercing, teeth, nails)
15. Sexually Transmitted Infection (STIs)
16. Sexual Health Clinics and check-ups (what to expect)
17. Stress, Anxiety, Depression (Managing with them)
18. Alternative and Complementary Therapies (aroma-therapy and other forms of alternative medicine)

The Adonis Complex: How to Identify, Treat, and Prevent Body Obsession in Men and Boys
By Harrison G. Pope, Jr. M.D., Katherine A. Phillips, M.D., and Roberto Olivardia, Ph.D.
Touchstone Publications, New York, New York, 2000

Key Elements: A scientific and social exploration of the body dismorphia, and the condition of muscle dysmorphia that was first named and identified by the authors of the book.
Includes valuable information about the increase of steroid use, attitudes that men, young and old have about their bodies, and how the male relationship with body image has changed throughout the recent decades and has information about gay men and some reference to gender. The book also contains three good appendixes, one that covers the fat - free mass index, the second diagnostic criteria for body image disorders, and the third where to get support for body image disorders.
There are eleven chapters which explore the topic from the beginning with cultural and historical references to how the disorder began to develop in Western culture and the possible treatment options that are available today.
There is information for parents and for others to help identify the complex in the men and boys who may be part of their lives.

Positively Gay: New Approaches in Gay and Lesbian Life
Foreword by Evelyn Hooker, PhD. Celestial Arts, 1979

Key Elements: All of the topics are covered thoroughly and extensively, some information that is shared in the book has been surpassed since it was published, some of the essays are also very American in what they share. It is however a very good read. It contains a Positively Gay Discussion Guide for education, training, and personal growth.

The topics covered are: Family Relationships, Mental Health, Religion, Coupling, Aging, Job Security, Financial Planning, Political Organizing, Financial Planning, Gay Voting Power, Gay Art, Judaism and the Gay Community, and Being a Gay Professional.

Sissyphobia Gay Men and Effeminate Behaviour
Tim Bergling, Foreword by Mark Simpson. Southern Tier Edititions, Harrington Park Press, 2001

Key Elements: A friendly guy next door writing style that explores an important topic in gay culture. This very American book is an easy read and very interesting it has good illustrations as well.

Chapter 1: 'No Femmes Need Apply', this covers the internal judgement about gay behaviour and being observed in public, it also looks at 'straight acting' and its role in the gay community.
Chapter 2: 'Origin of the 'Species', looks at 'why do effeminate guys act like that?' theories behind effeminate behaviour, masculine gay behaviour and effeminate gay behaviour
Chapter 3: 'Growing Pains', explores the childhood messages that we receive from parents and our environmental surroundings, changes and metamorphosis of adolescents and developing on awareness of being gay
Chapter 4: 'Fear and Loathing', tries to address the question of why people have developed a strong dislike of effeminate behaviour 'what is it about effeminate men that makes them such a target of unbridled contempt'
Chapter 5: 'The Enemy Within', carrying the secret of being gay, the internal emotional turbulence and early experiences with effeminate male behaviour and studies that explore the reactions to effeminate male gay behaviour
Chapter 6 : 'Dude Looks Like A Lady', the rites of passage in gay life, gay men who dress as women, violent femmes, a little history of the gay movement, drag queens, the link effeminate behaviour and flamey camp behaviour
Chapter 7: 'Be All You Can Be', Gay Men and the Military
Chapter 8: 'The Next Generation', the changing views of gay men about gay effeminate behaviour.