Deirdre Haslam

Contact Details

Pilgrims Rest, 12 Downs Road, Maldon, CM9 5HG
01621 851316
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By public transport: Chelmsford station, then 31 bus. I am about five minutes walk from the nearest 31bus stop, in Maldon High Street or you can park outside my practice at CM9 5HG

Fees & Charges

My fees range from £20 per session to £95 depending on ability to pay. I like to discuss my fee with each individual, depending on their financial status and this will be agreed at the first session. I have a similar fee structure for my supervision of counsellors and therapists.


Car parking available, Online/Internet Counselling, Skype Video Counselling, Telephone Counselling.

My clients

Gender & Sexual Minorities Experienced:
Cross Dresser/Transvestite
Kink/BDSM (all gender/sexualities)
Trans F2M
Trans M2F
Age ranges:
Seniors (60+)
Relationship Styles:
Friend and Family members

About me

Prior to training as a counsellor and subsequently as a psychotherapist, I was a classroom teacher for sixteen years with children and then with adolescents at Hackney College. It was during that time that I decided it would help me to work more effectively with the young people that I taught if I learned some counselling skills. I quickly realised that working with individuals was what I wanted to do. Having qualified initially at the Westminster Pastoral Foundation as a Jungian counsellor I then went on to do further trainings in Cognitive Analytic Therapy, NLP,  one year's group work at the Institute of Group Analysis and two years at Physis as an integrative therapist,   I continue to update my practice by ongoing further training, in particular Family Constellations, Couples work with Schleifer Associates, working with the Trans community, and much else besides. During this time I was also involved in developing a therapeutic counselling training at Anglia Ruskin University, where I set up and ran the first B.Sc in Therapeutic Counselling based on Ken Wilber's 4-Quadrant model until 2008. I was also a trainer on the Alternatives to Violence Project from 1993 to 2007 and have co-facilitated many workshops on anger management and working with conflict both in the community and within a number of prisons in the UK. I continue to run courses wherever I am asked, for example working with older people across the gender and sexual diversity spectrum, team-building workshops for St Mary's Church in Maldon. I am paticularly interested in suporting individuals and couples, who find themselves discriminated against as a result of cultural differences, disability, race and class. 

Sexual & Gender Identity:
Lesbian - Female

Experience and approach

Specific experience and training:

My original training was as a Jungian counsellor. Since then I have continued to develop my therapeutic experience through courses encompassing integrative, transpersonal and cognitive analytic approaches. Most recently I have completed training courses as a couples therapist and working with Trans-identified individuals.

Therapies Practiced:
Counselling, Psychotherapy, Supervision/Consultation.
Specialisms and interests:

I am particularly interested in supporting individuals and couples, who have experienced prejudice of one kind or another as a result of trans-cultural prejudices, living with disability and questioning their gender dysphoria. I have many years of experience working with people, who have been abused, are having relationship difficulties or are feeling confused about where their lives are going and/or are coping with loss. I work relationally with the whole person, which includes making sense both of their individual experiences and their relationship patterns as well as the cultures within which they have lived their lives. In sum I see myself as a transpersonal therapist, who is interested in all aspects of life as it impacts on us.

Theoretical approach:
Attachment Theory (Psychodynamic), Cognitive Analytic Therapy, Couple Therapy, Integrative, Intercultural/Transcultural, Interpersonal, Neuro-Linguistic Psychotherapy, Psychodynamic (Jungian), Systemic, Transpersonal.
Ethical Framework:
Constituent of UKCP.


Diploma in the Principles of the Theory and Practice of Supervision
(Jan 1980)
ACAT accredited CAT practitioner
(Jan 1980)
Assoc for Cognitive Analytic Therapy

Issues and problems I can help with:

Addictions/Compulsive behaviours, Adoption Issues, Ageing Issues , Anger Management, Anxiety/ Panic Attack, Bereavement/Grief, Bipolar Disorder, Borderline Personality Disorders, Cancer, Childhood Sexual Abuse (Survivors), Co-Dependency, Coming Out Issues, Cross Dressing/ Transvestism, Cultural/Ethnic Issues, Depression, Divorce, Domestic Violence, Drug/ Alcohol Misuse, Emotional Growth & Development, Gender Identity Concerns, Homophobic Bullying, Intimacy Issues, Kink/BDSM Identity Concerns, Learning/ Physical Disability issues, Life Coaching, Menopause, Personality Disorders, Post Traumatic Stress, Rape/ Sexual Assault/ Sexual Trauma, Relationship Issues, Religious Conflicts, Self Esteem/Confidence, Shame/Guilt, Stress Management, Suicidal Behaviour/Ideation, Transgender, Trauma.

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